I find that lately we talk a lot about them, almost as much as we talk about the bride!
They are interviewed in 9 out of 10 marriages and it seems that the bride can no longer do without them.
Who am I talking about, the groom? No! Of the pageboys (and of the bridesmaids ).
It is no coincidence that the fantastic wedding of Harry and Meghan I remember very well their page boy, who became “famous” thanks to his nice faces behind the bride and not only.
Yes, but despite these tender children very often run away – or at least try – left and right, in the throes of an attack of shyness, the brides, undeterred, want them at all costs at the procession, very straight and focused on piece. Seriously, their presence is certainly in many cases important on an emotional level and is also of great effect, but (only) if well organized.
How to prevent their presence from threatening a flawless entry of the bride?
First let’s start from the age. It is useless to dwell on the idea of the small page. Your faiths will never bring them. He can be as sociable, fun, and as easy-going as you like, but as soon as he crosses the threshold of the aisle, he will flee or cry out loud. Result? She will bring her mother and then you will enter with her in front of you to “enrich” your fateful entrance.
Otherwise, if the children are over 4 years old, they will be able to lend themselves to this task and probably they will also do it with pleasure, and why not, with a little tangible emotion.
Don’t expect too many tasks:
the page boy either wears the wedding rings or shakes hands with the bridesmaid.
Therefore, think carefully about each action and, if necessary, do some ” tests ” to realize the feasibility of each detail. Generally their tasks consist in: carrying the wedding ring pad, scattering the petals along the aisle or the path that the bride will take, supporting the veil or the train of the dress and, during the reception, they can help the bride and groom in the distribution of favors and confetti.
How many can they have?
Again, don’t overdo it. Do not train school groups on a trip, 2 children are enough to excite and to create a beautiful scenography. Having an important role, especially during the ceremony, make sure that their outfit is neat and in harmony with each other, but also that the clothes that are comfortable for their age – it would not be nice to see little girls tripping over their own dress.
Remind the mothers of the chosen ones to arrive earlier than the time they will have to show up, the “tasks” they will have to carry out during the ceremony, and some small recommendations, such as: do not rush, do not steal the coins in the offering basket and, in a sweet but decisive way, make them understand that the Church is not a playground.
It may seem like a trivial thing, but for them it can be a big commitment, so I recommend that you come up with a small reward, such as some games or fun entertainment at your reception.